I started coaching because I thought I could help people be better leaders.
And I do help. But in a very different way than I thought.
At first, I would instruct. I would teach. I would give clients frameworks and content and (dare I say) “wisdom.”
My clients seemed to appreciate what I was offering.
Then a curious thing started happening. I’d say something, and then a client would excitedly share something with me.
That had nothing to do with what I had been talking about!
My clients were having insights, but they were having insights IN SPITE of what I was saying.
I was getting in the way!
I started experimenting with saying less. With seeing how little I could talk.
And they started having MORE insights!
Sure, I might ask an occasional question, to clarify their experience. But most of the time I was silent.
There is something about simply creating a space for insight that is better than any thinking I can offer.
While that’s humbling, it’s also magic. Because everyone already knows what to do. They just need someone to pull it out of them. To help with the fear that shows up when they see they really can be who they want to be.
Would you like to experience that? DM me. Let’s have some fun.