Getting good grades.
Going to a good school.
Graduating with honors.
Going to a top law school.
Working in a top law firm in a highly rated department.
Getting married.
Buying a house.
Having a child.
Getting promoted. Getting promoted. Getting promoted and relocated.
Becoming a partner in a big consulting firm.
Buying a bigger house.
Buying a luxury car.
You get the idea.
At some point, I started to figure out that the temporary happiness that I got at each of the steps toward my supposed success was followed by more stress. And less actual happiness.
It took a long time to figure that out. And a lot of ups and downs along the way. I lost my father when I was 23. My first marriage ended when I was 37. I lost my job (the first time) at 38.
But not pushing myself, which looked to me like settling, like mediocrity, looked ever worse.
There was no way out of the prison I had built for myself. I could be miserable on the inside and successful looking on the outside. Or I could be miserable on the inside because I was no longer successful looking on the outside. I went through both of those, and then, slowly, I went through to something else.
Because there is something on the other side of that struggle for success. Something that looks a lot more like freedom. Something where you can actually be you, where you can do good work, where you can make good money (more money in the job you felt stuck in), where you can be happy while doing something you love.
The thing that most gets in the way of this is the belief that it is not possible. But it is. I have created it, and so have my clients.
The people who come to me have gotten to the point where they simply can’t take another day of the prison they have built for themselves.
I do not free them. I show them how to free themselves. How to create the thing they most want.
Are you ready to create that? Because it’s waiting for you. But you have to commit. To letting go. To seeing that you are already free, that you can choose and create from freedom. That seeing can happen in an instant.
Are you ready to begin?