We all have areas of our lives which we must claim as our domain.
Perhaps it is within relationships or our families. Perhaps within our companies.
Areas in which we are, in which we must be, in charge.
And yet I find so many people resist this.
As a pleaser from way back, I am especially sensitive to how people instinctively give up their power. In fact, I just spent a good thirty minutes talking with a client about this yesterday—about how his fear of upsetting people was preventing his company from reaching its potential.
This fear went back to very specific memories in childhood. In ways he had not considered but made perfect sense when he saw them.
So much of my own recent journey has been about reclaiming boundaries, both for myself and others. So much so that it seemed like a revelation when I saw I could simply state what I wanted, to create the boundaries that I needed, without fear of how another person might take it.
I now care for my mother, my wife, my children, and my clients in ways that were simply not possible a few months ago. Not only nurturing them but supporting and inspiring them as well.
It seems like most people have a tendency in this area. They over express as tyrant, or they under express by abdicating their throne.
Which are you? If you have a fear of being the tyrant, the chance is that more often than not your are actually abdicating your throne rather than claiming it.
Likewise, if you have a fear of being seen as a wimp, you are much more likely to show up as a tyrant.
People suffer when you do not claim this energy in a healthy way.
Where do you see suffering in your domain? And how would showing up in a more grounded, present way to claim your throne make things better for everyone?