“When I really think about that, it just blows my mind.”

A client of mine cried today. Tears of relief, joy even, as she was able to let go of a lot of judgmental thoughts that had been getting in her way as a leader.

We are just finishing the first day of a two day retreat, and we were doing a lot of work with exploring how she was creating herself and her reality.

We are using a lot of the curriculum that I will be following in my upcoming group coaching program, “Creating What’s Next.”

We spent the day exploring two fundamental truths.

First, that everyone’s experience of the world is 100 percent internal, and constantly changing. It is not “real” in any traditional sense of the word. (This is the part that blew her mind.)

Second, that what we call our identity isn’t solid either. It’s a series of stories that we have innocently created or innocently believed, often at a very young age. (This is the part where she cried.)

Third, since we are always creating our reality and our identity, we can consciously create them in much more useful and powerful ways.

We can let go of the past. It was the best we could do at the time. It looked useful. But if you’re 50 now, do you really trust your 5 year old self to run the show?

There is innocence and even beauty in how we learn to protect ourselves at such a young age.

And now that we no longer need that protection, we can choose differently.

There is incredible power in that. Power that can be used to create whatever you would like. The innate capacity that each of us have to see everything and do anything.