I’m starting with a new client next week and I sent along a couple videos to start the process. I got an email back with some GREAT questions–

“I understand that we all have thoughts but will need you help me understand why/when we should let go of them. Do we only need to quickly release bad thoughts or limiting thoughts? Looking forward to having you help me re-tool my thinking.”

When people begin to see that the only thing we can ever directly experience is our thinking (and not the world itself), many of them quite naturally think that the answer is to control their thinking.

But have you ever tried to do that? To stop the bad thoughts, or convert them to more positive ones?

It gets discouraging pretty fast.

But luckily, it’s entirely unnecessary.

Because thoughts are like clouds.

You would never say, “I need to control those clouds. I don’t want any scary looking clouds to appear. Of course I’d rather not have any clouds and just enjoy the blue sky. But if there are some bunny clouds and some clouds that look like flowers, I guess that would be ok.”

Clouds happen.

Thoughts happen, too.

But like clouds, thoughts change from moment to moment. By the time a single cloud has crossed the sky, it’s gone from being a bunny to a pirate ship to a turtle and everything in between.

You can watch your thoughts do this, too.

So while you can’t control your thoughts, you can see that all they are is thoughts. You have the power to give them power.

Many of us bludgeon ourselves with our thoughts with the mistaken (and innocent) idea that it will help to “motivate” us. But what seems to be more helpful is to simply see the “I’m not enough” thought for what it is–an indication that we are not in the best frame of mind right now.

When we see thoughts for what they are, the repetitive, stubborn ones often seem to quiet a bit.

And something interesting happens. In the silence, new thoughts can arise.

Insights.

We can see things from a fresh perspective. Life gets lighter. And in a moment, we can see a new opportunity. The world looks different.

Without trying to make anything happen at all.

What are you seeing that’s new and fresh for 2022?

And what do YOU have questions about?

Every year I see people make promises, to themselves, to others, to make changes in the New Year.

Of course, change is always possible. In any moment. In fact, change is always happening.

But there is change that is simply more, and change that is actually better. That is different.

To be the same old self with a new habit typically doesn’t work. Especially when we think we can berate ourselves into adopting the new habit, and that we should then feel bad about ourselves when we fail.

But to be a new self. A less limited self. To see our own unlimited capacity to create, our own creation of everything in our lives (including our own limits).

To see that we do nothing but create…

Now that has possibilities!

As you go into the last few days of this year, and beat yourself up for all the things you didn’t do in 2021, take some time to notice—

Who are you being?

Who are you, really?

What wants to emerge that you keep resisting, that you keep saying no to?

My clients come to me having achieved amazing things that they think they got through hard work and stress.

But they have a hard time seeing that that life can also be easy and joyful. That a lot of the stress was not only unnecessary but that it actually limited them.

They begin to see how creation can emerge from them, if they only get out of the way.

That success doesn’t have to feel hard and require sacrifice.

That they can create even more from a state of ease than they ever could from stress.

When they see this, they begin to say yes to a purer, easier form of creation.

What will you say yes to in 2022?

I’m taking a break from writing for the rest of the year. I hope that each one of you has an amazing holiday season, and truly connects with your loved ones, yourself, and your God.

And that in so doing you begin to see who you really are, and all that is waiting to emerge from that.

At this time of year, a lot of us are thinking about what to create in 2022.

What to create next.

Whether that’s a new role or a new company.

I find it’s incredibly helpful to look at where our creativity comes from. Because many of us, mistakenly, think that creativity is a gift that only a few of us have.

We all have it. We are made of it. It is part of our human essence.

Don’t believe me? Maybe an experiment will help you see your own, infinite creative energy.

It’s helpful to look at a distinction that many spiritual teachers make. In fact, one of my own teachers, Peter Fenner, makes this distinction in his book, Radiant Mind, a westernized version of esoteric Buddhist teachings.

The distinction is between awareness, and objects of awareness.

Awareness is that which is looking, tasting, touching, thinking. That which is formless, and both looking through your eyes and thinking your thoughts.

Objects of awareness are whatever we are looking at, or tasting, or touching.

Or thinking.

The things that we think of as outside of us—the world outside—appears to be relatively stable. That tree and that rock do not change, at least not quickly.

The things that we think of as inside of us—our thoughts, the stories that comprise our world, even the thoughts that we consider to be our identity—are constantly changing.

But they are still objects of awareness.

Because we—the formless—are aware of them.

And, more fundamentally, these thoughts emerge, moment by moment, from nothing.

Try this and see. Allow your thoughts to settle, so that you can see a little bit of space between them.

What is the next thought? Where did it come from?

That’s right. Nothing.

You had no idea what was coming, and yet there is was.

It’s a mystery. The mystery. And we all participate equally in that mystery.

Whether your next thought is about breakfast, or your dad never approving of you, or a great new product or even company, that thought is emerging from the same energy that creates everything.

And when you see this, when you really get this, everything changes.

You may not be able to control what you think about. But, at least my experience is that I have some power of choice. Some power to choose which thoughts to pay attention to, and which to ignore.

In other words you can’t choose whether to be creative or not. You are made to be creative.

What you can choose is what you allow to flow, and what you resist.

What will you choose for 2022?