When I saw this quote, which turns out to be the title of book, my heart broke.

Because I see so many people stuck. Having a dream, but still playing it safe.

Saying things like, “Once I have this much money,” or “Once the last one gets through college.” Then I will pursue my dream. Then I will figure out what I am really here to do.

But every day you are one day closer to death. Or to not being able to work.

One day closer to leaving your song unsung.

And none of us knows when that day will come. If a worldwide pandemic has not made that clear, I’m not sure what can.

Take one action today toward the pursuit of your dream. Take one step toward getting clarity. Make one phone call. Send one email. Tell one person your secret dream.

Tomorrow, and every day after, repeat, modify, be willing to be surprised.

The universe can be at your beck and call. But you have to tell it what you want first.

And what are we losing out on because of it?

I was having a conversation with a friend here in Colorado whose work has been impacted by COVID 19. He’s been spending a lot of his time simply looking for work. But he got quiet, and I sensed there might be more.

“I’ve had this pipe dream for awhile now,” he said.

I pointed out that we often use the term “pipe dream” as a way for our rational, cautious self to dismiss what our heart really wants.

“Tell me more,” I said.

He proceeded to tell me his perfect plan for a business for his community. A business that would not only bring joy, but that would contribute both during the day and at night.

A business that was not only perfect for his experience, but that I could not imagine anyone else succeeding with.

I pointed out the question that I often ask—

“What have you been preparing for your whole life, without realizing it?”

In that moment, we both choked up a bit. And his idea went from “pipe dream” to mission.

What’s the mission you are afraid to take on? What’s the thing that you are here to bring into the world? And what is the world missing out on because of it?

We need you.

And what would you be free to do if you stopped defending it?

I want to suggest that there is nothing that you think you need to defend that is actually real. That even your own sense of identity is just a series of thoughts that come and go.

This might feel deep, or esoteric, but it turns out to be incredibly useful.

A CEO client of mine and I did an experiment this week. We looked for this identity that we spend so much time defending and making look good.

We tried to find what we call “I.” In our arms, our legs, our heads, in whatever is looking out of our eyes.

I have a ton of thoughts about this thing I call Jeff, that I assume is in charge, that I want to succeed.

But when I stop and look for “Jeff,” I can’t find him anywhere.

If that sounds ridiculous, try it for yourself.

Why does this matter?

When we get out of our own way, what we do seems to have both more ease and more purpose.

When we can’t find the entity we think is running the show, we spend less time worrying about and defending that entity.

And yet the show seems to go on, even better than before, as a deeper purpose emerges.

What have you been defending? What could you get done if you realized it isn’t real?

Someone asked me how I work with people last week.

What I said was that the first level of work with someone is often simply to calm them down enough to see the world differently.

Of course, this is work that you can do without a coach.

Meditation, yoga, tai chi, centering. There are many practices that serve to calm the nervous system. To move you from the fight or flight of the sympathetic nervous system to a more productive, calm, centered place.

We often don’t recognize our role in creating the world. But when we are calm enough, a new world emerges. New priorities emerge. Meaning and purpose become real possibilities, rather than things we simply don’t have time to consider.

When we are driven, we think that we are changing things when we are actually just creating more of the same. More hours, more revenue, more profits.

When we quiet down, we become aware of different possibilities, and perhaps a deeper calling.

Sometimes it helps if you a calm, centered, present partner to hold that space.

Let me know if I can do that for you.

And then the deeper work, of creating that new possibility, can begin.