Is the idea that there is something getting in your way.

Will you need to do things? Maybe a lot of them?

Yes.

Will you get it right the first time?

Probably not.

But the idea that this is somehow an obstacle, rather than part of the process, is entirely made up.

Every struggle you have is simply the difference between what is happening and what you would prefer to be happening.

Once you see that, everything gets a lot easier. Even if nothing else changes.

I was speaking with a founder this morning who is having trouble growing. He has been very successful to this point, but has hit a revenue level that is seemingly difficult to break through.

I see this all the time.

Typically, it’s at the point where the founder can no longer do everything themselves.

There are two ways of getting past this, and one of them works.

The first is to say you are going to “delegate” to the new functional heads that you bring in, but what that really means is that you are going to insist that they do things just like you did.

And that isn’t delegation at all.

You maintain some semblance of control, but your micromanaging doesn’t free you up to think about the bigger picture issues around direction and strategy.

The second is to hire people who know more about each of those areas than you do—

Finance
Sales
Marketing
Product

Point them in a direction. And let them run.

Less control, yes. But more growth than you ever thought possible.

We all have areas of our lives which we must claim as our domain.

Perhaps it is within relationships or our families. Perhaps within our companies.

Areas in which we are, in which we must be, in charge.

And yet I find so many people resist this.

As a pleaser from way back, I am especially sensitive to how people instinctively give up their power. In fact, I just spent a good thirty minutes talking with a client about this yesterday—about how his fear of upsetting people was preventing his company from reaching its potential.

This fear went back to very specific memories in childhood. In ways he had not considered but made perfect sense when he saw them.

So much of my own recent journey has been about reclaiming boundaries, both for myself and others. So much so that it seemed like a revelation when I saw I could simply state what I wanted, to create the boundaries that I needed, without fear of how another person might take it.

I now care for my mother, my wife, my children, and my clients in ways that were simply not possible a few months ago. Not only nurturing them but supporting and inspiring them as well.

It seems like most people have a tendency in this area. They over express as tyrant, or they under express by abdicating their throne.

Which are you? If you have a fear of being the tyrant, the chance is that more often than not your are actually abdicating your throne rather than claiming it.

Likewise, if you have a fear of being seen as a wimp, you are much more likely to show up as a tyrant.

People suffer when you do not claim this energy in a healthy way.

Where do you see suffering in your domain? And how would showing up in a more grounded, present way to claim your throne make things better for everyone?

Most of the people I coach have already been tremendously successful. They might have goals, but there is a goal behind the goal. A reason they work so hard.

Happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment.

Generally, they think there is something missing, that there is some way in which they are fundamentally flawed. And there that there is some external achievement they can get that will convince themselves and the world that they are actually ok.

That finally, they are enough.

At some point, though, they see that external business success does not lead to any of those things. They see that they have been looking outward for too long. Falling for the cultural truth that happiness comes from results.

Most people know this isn’t true, but cling to it because they don’t see any alternative.

My work is to show you that alternative and enable you to live from it.

I start by showing you that the universe is entirely within you.

When you see that there is nothing outside of you, it is inescapable than any work you do is inner work. There is only inner work. When you see that you are not the world you have created, but the infinite potential creating that world, what you do with that potential changes. You see that you don’t need anything to be whole. You are already whole. You are already everything.

With nothing it, creating gets a lot more fun. And, not surprisingly, brings a lot better results.

The doing comes from the being. It can be no other way.

If you don’t like what you are creating, or if it looks like someone else is creating it (they aren’t), it might be time to look inward.

Which is really the only place you can ever look.