I love the idea, central to some religious faiths, of being “born again.”

The idea that we can, in a moment, become a new person.

Take on a new identity.

I have found, even outside of a religious context, this is not only possible, but often necessary.

As a consultant, I became a different person than I was as a lawyer. As a manager, I also had to be different. Leading client relationships, I had to be different. As a board member, different.

And as a coach, I have to be different. With every change, my old behaviors were no longer useful. Even in my coaching, as who I coach has changed, who I show up as to coach them changes.

Each of these things has felt like a kind of death to me. A transformation. That death, that willingness to let go of a former self, is the only way to get to what’s on the other side.

While it might feel scary, it is also necessary.

What is your current identity keeping you from? What if you declared today, in this moment even, to take on a new identity?

To die and be reborn as the person you always wanted to be? As the person who will do what you’ve always wanted to do?

 

I’m not saying that as a playground taunt. It’s a serious question.

Because as much as you say you want change, you want more, you want to go after your dream, there is generally some kind of fear that prevents you from going after it. From taking the leap of faith.

You can do this, though. So many before you have. I have.

I had been saying I wanted to be a full-time coach for years. But I didn’t actually do it until I lost my job. I was too afraid of giving up the job that I had, until I no longer had it.

What is the fear that is getting in the way of you going after the thing you really want?

—Fear of not being liked
—Fear of being laughed at
—Fear of financial uncertainty
—Fear of something else?

Look at that fear. Is it real?

I’ve worked with so many leaders who say they fear “losing everything” or “being out on the streets” or “having all their good people leave.”

I have never talked to a single leader who has actually had any of those experiences, as real as the fear seems.

You will figure it out. You have always figured it out.

Whether that is starting a new job or company, or taking the one you have to the next level.

You can do this because you already have.

What do you want most in your life? In business, in relationships, in finances?

Why? What is it that you think you will get from having it?

Go into your mind and FEEL what you would get—the emotions, the sensations, the pure joy and gratitude.

You can have all of those things right now. If you actually did the thought experiment that I just gave you, you just had the experience of having that thing.

It is that experience that will bring the thing to you. Not the other way around.

Try it and you’ll see.

This isn’t magic—you will still need to do things in the world. But the experience of already having it will help you know what it is you need to do to actually get it. And who you need to be in the process.

Comment or DM me with a story you have of this already working. That time that something happened because you just knew it would.

Yes, this is backwards from what most of us were taught. But that’s why most people aren’t very good at getting what they want.

Actually, that’s incorrect.

You are the potential to create anything. That potential is not a thing—it is the creator of things.

“You” are the consciousness that is creating your experience of everything in your life.

“You” are pure consciousness itself—whatever it is that is looking through your eyes and thinking your thoughts, among other things.

If your results are different than you would like, how are you creating that?

If the people in your life are different than you would like, how are you creating that?

If you are different than you would like, how are you creating that?

You are the infinite power to create any experience of your life.

How are you using that power?