People generally come to me for one of two reasons.

First, doing more of the same thing they have always done is no longer working.

You’ve gotten to the point where you can’t work more hours. Where you can’t know every detail.

This served you well early in your career, but now it will sink you.

Unless you change. Because to grow, you need to let go.

If you know what you need to do (let go, delegate, etc.) but for some reason can’t do it, it’s a clear sign we should be talking.

Second, when getting more of what you have always gotten is no longer rewarding.

You’re really good at getting more money, at getting promoted, at getting all the outer trappings of success.

But you’ve done it enough to see that outer success is a dead end. And you don’t yet know what inner success looks like.

That’s another reason that people hire me. To figure out what they will do with the second half of their life, when the scorecard looks very different.

Have a great Memorial Day weekend. I hope that you get some time to think about some of these bigger questions.

Because at some point, I guarantee, more of the same will no longer be enough.

And at that point, let’s talk.

 

Great conversation on leading in and through uncertainty. And he gave me a cool picture of myself!

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What are the truths that you can see but can’t say?

Do you have honest, constructive feedback conversations? With your CEO, your reports and your peers?

One of the biggest challenges that I run into, at all levels of an organization, is a fear of telling the truth.

I believe that we become better leaders by becoming better humans. If you can’t say what’s really on your mind, there is something about you, about your organization, or both, that needs to change.

If you want to become part of a free group that supports each other as we learn to speak our truth, please PM me.

I’m creating a group of people who want to bring their whole selves to work, who want to do work that matters, who believe that better, more vulnerable, more authentic humans make better leaders.

PM me and I’ll tell you more.

We can do this if we do it together.

Right now, it seems like my heart is a more valuable guide to what I should be doing in the world than my head.

My head is better with maps and spreadsheets.

But there seems to be no working map or spreadsheet available right now.

My heart calls me to serve rather than solve.

My heart calls me to declare a different truth than we typically see in the corporate world. That the more of ourselves we are willing to bring to work (even WFH), the more vulnerable and real we are willing to be, the more effective we can be as leaders.

That we can only become better leaders if we first become better humans.

Especially now.

I’ve seen a lot of people “succeed” the other way. By intimidating, by demeaning, by choosing the easy bad over the hard good.

And it seems to work. For awhile, anyway.

I have succumbed to this intimidation for too long.

Am I willing to be ridiculed for declaring a truth I see as self-evident?

Am I willing to stop hiding?

What about you?

If you want to be part of a group of people who want to bring their whole selves to work, who believe that better, more vulnerable, more authentic humans make better leaders, PM me and I will tell you more.

We can do this if we do it together.